{ Dear Me as a New Bride }

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We are celebrating our 31st Anniversary today, 6/23/2021! We don’t look like this anymore.

 

Dear Me as a New Bride,

You look really happy and content.

Stay that way.

Right now, your new husband seems as kindred as one of your female friends.

But, he’s a man.  Don’t forget that.

On the surface, you two speak the same language.

But your heart language is different.

When you love him in FemaleHeartSpeak,

he won’t understand.

Speak LOVE in his own language:

Respect

Loyalty

And Intimacy

(The physical kind.)

If you ever get discouraged,

Always, always consult your User’s Manual first.

You will have bad days…

…but don’t wallow in self-pity.

A Christian marriage is not about YOU,

any more than The Christian Life is all about YOU.

Marriage is one big school to make you more like Jesus.

Someday, you will look back and see

the big picture

and the footprints of God

who effortlessly carried you through every joy and trial.

Keep that fresh, dewy, idealistic smile on your face.

With God,

You got this.

Love, Me

 

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful, it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. – from 1 Corinthians 13

 

 

Me and my man in 2021.

{ Dear Me as a New Bride }

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~~ Celebrating our 28th Anniversary~ 06/23/1990 ~~(We don’t look like this anymore.)

 

Dear Me as a New Bride,

You look really happy and content.

Stay that way.

Right now, your new husband seems as kindred as one of your female friends.

But, he’s a man.  Don’t forget that.

On the surface, you two speak the same language.

But your heart language is different.

When you love him in FemaleHeartSpeak,

he won’t understand.

Speak LOVE in his own language:

Respect

Loyalty

And Intimacy

(The physical kind.)

If you ever get discouraged,

Always, always consult your User’s Manual first.

You will have bad days…

…but don’t wallow in self-pity.

A Christian marriage is not about YOU,

any more than The Christian Life is all about YOU.

Marriage is one big school to make you more like Jesus.

Someday, you will look back and see

the big picture

and the footprints of God

who effortlessly carried you through every joy and trial.

Keep that fresh, dewy, idealistic smile on your face.

With God,

You got this.

Love, Me

 

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful, it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. ~ 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

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6/23/2018

 

https://wordofthedaychallenge.wordpress.com/2018/06/23/possibility/

 

© Lisa M. Luciano

{ A Lifetime Nest }

As I mentioned a few days ago, my husband and I were asked to give a little talk / devotional at a family bridal shower.

The purpose: to pass along some marriage wisdom to the bride and groom.

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When I discussed this with my husband, he said, “Us?  Why?” and….”Let’s borrow someone else’s story.”

Haha. Sigh.

I’d like to say that is humility, but really it’s just the fact that we are still learning and struggling sometimes to just love each other they way we should.

But, powered by God’s grace, we are making progress. It’s a marathon, not a sprint.

You can plan a gorgeous wedding with all of the trendy colors, Pinterest ideas, and delectable treats.  You can rake in gift cards, checks, and gorgeous baubles to decorate your new nest.

However, building a successful marriage goes far past the dreamy wedding; it takes a lifetime.

It’s the day-in, day-out dying to myself that wins victories. It’s the consistent obedience to the Author of marriage and the regular forgiving and asking forgiveness that establishes trust.

We have been married for 27.5 years.  At least we can look back and see that God has done some refining — in ourselves and as a couple.

And maybe that is worth passing along to a pair of fresh little lovebirds.

 

Word Prompt of the Day:  NEST

(Also helpful: Angela’s post today about Priscilla, a godly wife.)

Photo credit: Virgil Cayasa